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The Cost of Giving Your Heart Away: A Lesson in Saving Yourself

Updated: Sep 22

I've been working on this piece for several days now. Over a year ago, I wrote about the cost of a heart transplant and how we often give our heart away without thinking. This version has had time to marinate, deepening in perspective and meaning.

Imagine your heart. A vital organ, beating day after day, without rest. Now, imagine losing it and needing a heart transplant to survive. In the United States, the cost of a heart transplant can skyrocket to over a million dollars, a staggering figure that includes pre-transplant care, hospital stays, medication, and long-term recovery. But what if we thought about the toll we place on our hearts in everyday life? Not physically, but emotionally. How often do we give our heart away—our time, our energy, our peace—for free, leaving us depleted, without considering the cost?


In the same way that a heart transplant has its own expenses, so does the emotional heart that beats within us. Yet, many of us spend days, months, or even years giving parts of our hearts away freely, without thought to the price we pay.


The Pre-Transplant Stage: Worry and Emotional Exhaustion

In the lead-up to a heart transplant, the body requires intensive care to ensure it's ready for the procedure. This pre-transplant care can cost around $49,800. Likewise, in our everyday lives, we invest heavily in the "pre-transplant" stage—the phase where we worry, overthink, and exhaust ourselves emotionally. We give so much energy to things beyond our control, pouring out our heart before we've even entered the real challenge. We worry about relationships that may never thrive, or we stay in situations that drain us rather than fill us.


These pre-transplant moments, just like their medical counterparts, are costly. But instead of draining our bank accounts, they drain our spirit.


The Organ Procurement: Giving Our Heart Away

When it’s time to secure a new heart, the process of organ procurement alone can cost around $131,500. In life, we often "procure" situations, people, or jobs that we think will fulfill us, giving our heart away in the process. We make sacrifices for others—sometimes without thinking twice—and give them pieces of ourselves without realizing how valuable that gift is.


But at what cost? Just as you can’t put a price on a healthy heart, you can’t measure the true value of peace, emotional well-being, and freedom. When we give our heart away too freely, we often find ourselves with less to give where it truly matters.


The Hospital Admission: Paying the Price for Holding On

Once the transplant is complete, a hospital stay of several days or weeks is necessary, and the cost can run upwards of $1,062,600. Likewise, when we hold on to situations or people that aren't good for us, the "hospital stay" of emotional recovery can be long and costly. The heart that once beat freely now struggles under the weight of past decisions, leaving us feeling trapped in the very situations we once thought would bring us joy.


Physician Costs: The Emotional Toll

Physicians monitor the transplant process closely, and their services alone can cost around $111,100. Similarly, in everyday life, we spend time and energy seeking emotional care—whether through therapy, self-help, or simply confiding in friends. While these resources are invaluable, they highlight the toll our choices have taken on us. It’s a reminder that giving our heart away freely often leads to the need for emotional repair and care, and that, too, comes at a cost.


Post-Transplant Care: The Long Road to Healing

After a heart transplant, post-care can last for months, costing around $270,300. In the same way, after we've given our hearts away, the healing process can take much longer than we anticipate. It's not just about moving on; it's about fully recovering, regaining peace, and learning to protect your heart in the future.


Medications: The Daily Investment in Maintaining Peace

Even after recovery, heart transplant patients rely on medications like immunosuppressants, which cost about $39,500, to keep their new heart functioning. For us, the "medication" might be daily practices that preserve our peace—whether through meditation, exercise, or surrounding ourselves with positive influences. These are the habits and choices that keep our hearts strong and help us avoid emotional depletion in the future.


Choosing to Live in Peace and Freedom

Just as a heart transplant is a last resort—a necessary but extreme measure—so too should we treat the gift of our emotional heart. Instead of giving it away freely to every worry, person, or situation that comes our way, we can choose to save ourselves. We can choose to live in peace and freedom, holding on to our hearts with care and only giving them to situations that truly matter.


The emotional costs we pay—worry, exhaustion, and emotional recovery—are just as real as the financial costs of a heart transplant. And just as we'd take every precaution to protect our physical heart, we must also take steps to safeguard our emotional one.


So, before you give your heart away again, ask yourself: Is this worth the cost? Or would you rather save yourself, living in the peace and freedom that comes from valuing your heart as the priceless gift it truly is?


Just want to keep this thing called #life - SIMPLE! Remember to stay #Positive, #Plugged and #Present. #Learnedman

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